Saturday, October 28, 2006

Don't Rape Women

A lot has been said about how to prevent rape. Women should learn self-defense. Women should lock themselves in their houses after dark. Women shouldn't have long hair and women shouldn't wear short skirts. Women shouldn't leave drinks unattended. Hell, they shouldn't dare to get drunk at all. Instead of that bullshit, how about:

If a woman is drunk, don't rape her.
If a woman is walking alone at night, don't rape her.
If a woman is drugged and unconscious, don't rape her.
If a woman is wearing a short skirt, don't rape her.
If a woman is jogging in a park at 5 am, don't rape her.
If a woman looks like your ex-girlfriend you're still hung up on, don't rape her.
If a woman is asleep in her bed, don't rape her.
If a woman is asleep in your bed, don't rape her.
If a woman is doing her laundry, don't rape her.
If a woman is in a coma, don't rape her.
If a woman changes her mind in the middle of or about a particular activity, don't rape her.
If a woman has repeatedly refused a certain activity, don't rape her.
If a woman is not yet a woman, but a child, don't rape her.
If your girlfriend or wife is not in the mood, don't rape her.
If your step-daughter is watching TV, don't rape her.
If you break into a house and find a woman there, don't rape her.
If your friend thinks it's okay to rape someone, tell him it's not, and that he's not your friend.
If your "friend" tells you he raped someone, report him to the police.
If your frat-brother or another guy at the party tells you there's an unconscious woman upstairs and it's your turn, don't rape her, call the police and tell the guy he's a rapist.

Tell your sons, god-sons, nephews, grandsons, sons of friends it's not okay to rape someone.

Don't tell your women friends how to be safe and avoid rape. Don't imply that she could have avoided it if she'd only done/not done x.

Don't imply that it's in any way her fault.
Don't let silence imply agreement when someone tells you he "got some" with the drunk girl.Don't perpetuate a culture that tells you that you have no control over or responsibility for your actions. You can, too, help yourself.

If you agree, re-post it. It's that important. -Author unknown.

Sunday, October 22, 2006

Realization

It comes to me this evening, that I must keep my kids safe at home. I must keep them away from men, who feel that they can hurt them.

There are alot of sick people in the world, with a hunger for sex. They will stoop to any level to get it.

Doctors claim this to be chemical imbalance or mental instablility. i don't buy it. It is a man, that is hungry, and has power only over someone weaker then themselves.

I met a family this weekend, whose child was abused. To see their pain, their anguish, and to imagine what that child has endured.

A child trusts their family. An uncle? Uncle??????????????

Damn bastard deserves to be in jail. Hope he rots there. As for the family, they are in pain, but admittedly very strong. God Bless them.

I needed to rant. I really needed this vent.

More Rape News

Four U.S. soldiers charged with rape and murder

FORT CAMPBELL, Kentucky (CNN) -- Four U.S. soldiers accused of raping and killing a 14-year-old girl and slaying her sister and their parents will face courts-martial on murder charges, military officials say.
The commander of the 101st Airborne Division has referred murder charges against the soldiers for the alleged crimes that occurred in Mahmoudiya, south of Baghdad, in March. Two of the soldiers could face the death penalty if convicted.
According to a written statement, Maj. Gen. Thomas Turner made the decision after reviewing a report of the investigation and receiving recommendations from the investigating officer, the appointing authority who directed the investigation and his staff judge advocate.
One of the soldiers, 23-year-old Army Spec. James P. Barker, told an Army criminal investigator that after the killings he poured kerosene on the girl's bullet-ridden body, according to testimony in August at a military hearing. The girl's father, mother and five-year-old sister were also killed, according to military officials.
Barker said in an interview that he held the girl down while she was raped by another soldier, Sgt. Paul Cortez, 23, according to Special Agent Benjamin Bierce of the Army's Criminal Investigation Division.
Barker said he then attempted to rape the girl himself, before she was shot to death by former Pfc. Steven D. Green, Bierce said. Green is no longer in the military and faces charges in civilian court.
But, Barker added, he was not sure if he penetrated the girl, because he was having trouble getting an erection.
Bierce also testified that Barker admitted pouring kerosene from a lamp onto the girl's body, although it was unclear from the testimony who set the girl on fire.
Bierce's testimony came during a preliminary hearing in Baghdad for Barker, Cortez, and two other soldiers, Pfc. Jesse V. Spielman, 21, and Pfc. Bryan L. Howard, 19, who are also charged in connection with the killings in Mahmoudiya.
The hearing, similar to civilian grand jury proceedings, was held to determine whether there was enough evidence to proceed to courts-martial.
Soldiers held girl down, investigators say
According to statements given at the hearing, the soldiers were drinking whiskey, playing cards and hitting golf balls when Green brought up the idea of going to a house near the checkpoint where they were stationed, to rape the girl.
Barker described Green as very persistent, Bierce testified. The statements said the five soldiers -- Green, Cortez, Barker, Spielman and Howard -- then changed into dark clothing and covered their faces, before going to the house.
According to Barker, Howard was the lookout and was given a radio to use if anyone approached, Bierce said. The four remaining soldiers then entered the home, at which point the statements from Barker and Cortez about what happened diverge, according to testimony.
Barker told investigators that Cortez pushed the 14-year-old girl to the floor and made "thrusting motions" as Barker held down her hands; then they switched positions, Bierce said.
Sometime during the assault, Barker said he heard gunshots come from the bedroom, where the girl's parents and sister had been taken, and an agitated Green emerged and said he had killed them, Bierce said.
According to Barker, Green then put down the AK-47 he had been carrying and raped the girl, while Cortez held her down, and then picked up the gun and shot her several times, Bierce said.
Green then went into the kitchen and, when he returned, said he had opened the propane tank and they needed to get out of the house because it was about to explode, Bierce said.
However, in his statement to U.S. Army investigators, Cortez denied raping the girl, although he admitted holding her down while Barker raped her, Special Agent Gary Griesmyer testified.
Under questioning, Griesmyer testified there was no evidence Spielman raped or murdered anyone in the house.
Special Agent Michael Hood also said Spielman passed a polygraph test in which he denied shooting or raping anyone. However, in his statement to investigators, Barker put Spielman at the scene and said Spielman grabbed the five-year-old girl outside the house and took her inside, Bierce said.
After the alleged attack, Barker also said the soldiers gave Spielman their clothes to burn and that he threw the AK-47 in a canal, Bierce said.
A sixth soldier, Sgt. Anthony W. Yribe, has been charged with failing to report the alleged rape and killings, but was not alleged to have been a participant.
A soldier's suspicions
Also testifying at the August hearing was a soldier in the same platoon as the accused men, Pfc. Justin Watt, who said he began trying to find out what happened at Mahmoudiya after Yribe confided to him that Green had told Yribe about the rape and killings.
"I wanted to see if I could confirm my suspicions that there were more people involved," Watt said. "I believed there were American forces involved."
Watt said when he asked Howard about what happened, Howard revealed the plan to rape the girl and that his role was to be the lookout. "(Howard) let me know that he ended up seeing a Humvee and calling them back frantically," Watt testified.
Howard also told him that when the other soldiers returned from the house, "Their clothes were covered in blood," Watt said.
After piecing together the details about what happened, Watt said he reported his suspicions to a combat stress team. "If you have the power to make something right, you should do it," Watt said. "Investigation is not my job. But if something went down, something terrible like that, then it's my obligation to come forward."
However, Watt also described the conditions at Mahmoudiya as a "suck-fest," testifying that the soldiers were living in the basement of a "dilapidated, abandoned water treatment facility," and had gone 30 days without a shower.
He also said the ongoing violence, including the deaths of two soldiers in their unit shortly before the slayings of the Iraqi family, had affected everyone. "I was going to get a memorial tattoo of all the guys (who were killed), but there's not enough room on my arm," Watt said.
Accused has "anti-social personality disorder"
Green, who was discharged from the Army and returned to the United States in May because of an "anti-social personality disorder," is facing rape and murder charges in a civilian federal court. He is being held in a Kentucky jail.
All six men charged are from the 502nd Parachute Infantry Regiment of the 101st Airborne Division, based in Fort Campbell, Kentucky.
There is some confusion over the alleged rape victim's age. Identity cards and death certificates of the victims, which were obtained by Reuters news agency, show the alleged rape victim was Abeer Qassim Hamza al-Janabi, with the birth date August 19, 1991.
The mayor of Mahmoudiya confirmed her identity and birth date to CNN. The U.S. military had previously referred to the alleged rape victim as a "young Iraqi woman."
A Justice Department affidavit in the case against Green says investigators estimated her age at about 25, while the U.S. military said she was 20.
Marines face murder charges in separate case
In Camp Pendleton, California, on Wednesday a U.S. Marine general ordered three Marines to stand trial on murder charges in the April killing of an Iraqi man outside Baghdad.
Cpl. Trent Thomas, Lance Cpl. Tyler Jackson and Lance Cpl. Robert Pennington are among a group of seven Marines and a Navy medic who have been held at Camp Pendleton since June in connection with the killing of Hasham Ibrahim Awad, 52, in the town of Hamandiya, west of Baghdad.
They face possible life sentences if convicted of murder. Lt. Gen. James Mattis, the chief of Marine forces in the Middle East, ordered the courts-martial after reviewing each case, the Marines announced in a statement from the San Diego-area base.
No trial dates have been set.


Plea spares girl, 9, from testifying against captor


Story Highlights•Joseph Edward Duncan III pleads guilty to murder, kidnapping as trial begins•Deal spares Shasta Groene, 9, from testifying about ordeal•Shasta was rescued at an Idaho restaurant on July 2, 2005•Duncan faces federal charges in the near future
COEUR D'ALENE, Idaho (AP) -- The man accused of kidnapping two children from their Idaho home and killing their family pleaded guilty Monday to murder and kidnapping in a deal that spares his youngest victim from testifying at trial.
Joseph E. Duncan III, 43, was charged with bludgeoning two adults and a teenager to death at the home near Coeur d'Alene so he could kidnap the family's two youngest children for sex.
The young boy was later found dead at a Montana campsite.
Only 9-year-old Shasta Groene survived. She was rescued after Duncan walked into a Idaho restaurant with her seven weeks later. She had been expected to be a primary witness against Duncan.
Duncan pleaded guilty shortly before his trial was to begin Monday to three counts of first-degree murder in the deadly claw hammer attack on Shasta's mother, Brenda Groene; Groene's fiance, Mark McKenzie; and Groene's 13-year-old son, Slade, in May 2005.
Under his plea agreement, Duncan is to be sentenced to three consecutive life terms without parole in Idaho.
That sentencing was delayed pending federal prosecution that could result in the death penalty, Kootenai County Prosecutor Bill Douglas said.
"We essentially gave up nothing," Douglas said. "It is virtually guaranteed he will face two death juries."
The agreement calls for Duncan to cooperate fully with law enforcement officers on the state charges and the anticipated federal charges in the kidnapping of the two children and the killing of Dylan in Montana.
Police believe it was the children in their swimsuits that caught Duncan's attention, triggering a spree of savage murder, kidnapping and child rape.
The registered sex offender, on the run from a child molestation charge in Minnesota, drove past the rural home where Shasta, then 8, and Dylan, 9, were frolicking in May 2005, investigators say.
According to court records, Duncan stalked the Groene family for several days to learn their habits. Then he donned night-vision goggles and entered their home in the early morning of May 16.
The court records say Duncan molested the children for seven weeks at a primitive campsite near St. Regis, Montana, possibly capturing some of his actions on the digital video and still cameras he carried. At some point Dylan was killed.
Duncan then drove with Shasta back to Coeur d'Alene, stopping at a Denny's along Interstate 90 around 2 a.m. on July 2, 2005. Staff and customers recognized the girl from the many photos plastered throughout the region and called police.
Duncan told arresting officers he was returning the girl to her father.
A pool of some 800 local residents had been called in an effort to find a jury that can give him a fair trial.
However, sentiment in this conservative region runs strongly against Duncan, who spent most of his adult life in prison for molesting children. Bumper stickers saying "Kill Duncan" abound.
Prosecutor Douglas rejected Duncan's earlier offers to confess to the crimes he is charged with -- plus other crimes for which he is not yet charged -- in exchange for avoiding the death penalty.
Federal public defender Roger Peven, who will represent Duncan in the federal court case, says the defendant also wanted to spare Shasta the trauma of having to testify against him in court.
"It's the right thing to do," Peven said last week.
Shasta is under additional stress because her father, Steve, is battling throat cancer, which has required the removal of his larynx. Steve Groene asked prosecutors to settle the case to spare his daughter.
The earlier plea bargain request included an offer to give investigators access to encrypted files in Duncan's computer, which are thought to contain graphic evidence of his crimes.
Experts have yet to unlock the files and Duncan, a computer expert, has bragged that the encryption protection he used is so strong that it will take authorities three decades to crack it.
Since his arrest, Duncan has also been implicated in the unsolved deaths of two children in Seattle and one in Southern California.
Copyright 2006 The Associated Press. All rights reserved.This material may not be published, broadcast, rewritten, or redistributed.

Saturday, October 14, 2006

To Be Strong

An Abused Women's Affirmation

I celebrate my courage. I was alone, but now I am not alone. I was victimized, but I am no longer a victim.

I name the violence in my life--and declare it wrong. I name that I need help, and that I am willing to give help.

Nothing I do provokes the violence. Nothing about me causes the violence. Nothing gives one person the right to abuse another person. Abusers can change themselves, but I cannot change them.

Nothing I can do will change my past. Everything I do changes my future.

I have protected myself and my children. Resistance to violence, defending myself or my children, is not abuse.

I believe myself; I believe my sisters. I can ask support; I can give support. I can change myself; I can change the world.

My being here helps others. I am not here to judge my sisters, but to support their healing. I will take the risk to trust other women here. Every time a sister resists, she creates a space for resistance around her.

I am here in solidarity with my sisters of all persuasions, all colors, all orientations, and all faiths to say NO ! to violence. We will not be divided by our diversity--we will be strengthened by it.
In the words of Alice Walker, "I am the woman offering two flowers whose roots are twin. Justice and Hope. Let us begin."

Fake Cop Rapist



What has this world come too. Young Girls!?????? Posing as a Police Man. Disgusting. Absolutely Disgusting!

Feds arrest fake-cop rapist suspect

FORT APACHE INDIAN RESERVATION, Arizona (AP) -- Federal officials arrested a man Friday who they believe was posing as a police officer and raping young girls on the Fort Apache Indian Reservation.
A task force with the Bureau of Indian Affairs took 29-year-old Jimi Aday into custody on charges of kidnapping and aggravated sexual contact, according to a news release from the U.S. Department of the Interior.
Officials planned to take Aday to Flagstaff for a court appearance Saturday.
Since March, a man posing as a police officer has raped at least 12 girls and a 20-year-old woman, authorities have said.
The man told the girls they were under arrest, handcuffed them and then raped them. The most recent attack was September 6. (Watch how the rapist terrorizes reservation -- 2:41 )
Only two of the girls reported the rapes because they thought they had been attacked by an actual police officer, said Warren Youngman, assistant special agent in charge at the BIA.
Agents found most of the other victims after they went house-to-house to tell residents about the incidents.
Copyright 2006 The Associated Press. All rights reserved.This material may not be published, broadcast, rewritten, or redistributed.

Protect Yourself!

Rape Protective MeasuresRape is a violent crime, an invasion, a frightening experience.Rape affects all women, no matter what their age, race or economicstatus. All women are potential victims of sexual assault.By being aware, a woman can reduce the likelihood of becoming arape victim. This does not mean all rapes can be prevented.Rapists commit rape -- NOT VICTIMS.

Psychological Preparedness

1. Accept the fact that you are a potential rape victim. Many women operate under the illusion "it will never happen to me. It may.

2. Educate yourself concerning rape prevention tactics.

3. Become familiar with community rape prevention and counseling.

4. Become aware of locations and situations where rape is more likely to occur and avoid them, or take precautions.

In a Dating/Friend Situation

1. The majority of rapes that occur are termed "acquaintance rapes" - the rapist and victim know one another. Trust your feelings. If you become uncomfortable in a situation, assertively ask the person to leave. Don't worry about hurt feelings.

2. If possible, let a friend or roommate know who you are with and where you will be. Leave an address and phone number when possible.I

In Your Car

1. Keep windows and doors locked.

2. If you should be followed into your driveway, stay in your car with the doors locked. Sound horn to get the attention of neighbors or scare the other driver off.

3. When parking at night, select a place that will be well-lit when returning to the car.

4. Always make sure the car is locked, and have the keys ready when returning to the car.5. Check interior of car before getting in.

On the Street

1. Be observant of things around you. If someone is following you, go to the nearest house or store.

2. Walk near the curb and avoid passing close to shrubbery, dark doorways and other places of concealment.

3. DO NOT HITCHHIKE.

4. Avoid short cuts through parking lots and alleys.

5. Walk with a friend if at all possible. Don't walk alone.

6. If a car approaches you and you feel threatened, scream and run in the direction opposite of the one the car is going.

7. When arriving home by taxi or private auto, ask the driver to wait until you are inside.

8. Don't jog in secluded areas.

9. Know the location of the special emergency phones campus.

In Your Home

1. The best lock cannot function if you fail to lock it. Be sure to keep your doors locked.

2. All windows should have secure locks and frames.

3. All entrances and garages should be well-lit.

4. Never open the door after a knock. Require the person to give their name. In the case of service persons ask for proper I.D. and refuse entrance if you feel uneasy.

If You Are Sexually Assaulted

The best resistance you can use against an attacker isyour common sense. Think! Don't panic. The mostimportant element to remember is that you are not tryingto fight the attacker, but are attempting to divert theperson long enough to get away. Always look for a wayto escape.If the attacker has a weapon, use your common sense.

Fighting against it could be dangerous

1. Stay calm. Do not do anything that may upset the attacker.

2. Try to convince the person to put the weapon down.

3. Talk to your attacker, show sympathy and understanding.4. Make the attacker see you as an individual, not as an object.If the attacker is unarmed, you may be able to scare,distract or injure the person enough to make your escape

1. Scream "FIRE," "POLICE," or create a disturbance that will attract attention.

2. Assert yourself and fight back if you can do so safely.

3. Break away and run toward areas with people.

4. Be observant so that you will be able to remember and identify the assailant.

5. Report the incident to the police as soon as possible.

Checklist for Victims of Sexual Assault

You may want to call the Rape Crisis Line () forinstructions and support.

1. Report the crime immediately to the police.2. Do not shower, douche, or change clothing.3. Have a medical exam and internal gynecological exam as soon as possible. A delay in time may destroy evidence.

a) Semen smears must be taken by a clinician.

b) Inform clinician of exact acts committed upon you and have the clinician note any medical evidence of them.

c) Clinician should note any bruises or injuries bleeding, lacerations, etc.) external or internal.

d) Have clinician test for venereal diseases (and pregnancy later, if relevant).

4. Do not disturb the scene of the assault.

5. Inform police of all details of attack, however intimate, and of anything unusual you may have noted about the attacker. Remember what the person said and how it was said. It may lead to the arrest of the assailant.

6. Show police any external bruises or injuries, however minor, resulting from the attack.

7. Police may request your clothes for purpose of evidence.

8. Inform the police if you remember anything that was not previously reported.

Monday, October 09, 2006

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. During this time we renew our commitment to educating all members of our communities about this serious crime and the frightening toll that it takes on America’s citizens. Everyone has a role in addressing domestic violence—whether providing necessary and comprehensive services for victims and their families or holding offenders accountable for their crimes. One of the most important goals of Domestic Violence Awareness Month is ensuring that we all recognize, acknowledge, and assume responsibility for the ways in which we can help to end domestic violence—as individuals, as communities, and as a nation.


The Department of Justice is proud to partner with the Department of Health and Human Services, the Centers for Disease Control, and the Department of Defense in our efforts to strengthen the Federal response to domestic violence. Collectively, we are addressing such issues as children who witness domestic violence, culturally and linguistically-specific services, dating violence, tribal issues, and enforcement of protection orders. Within the Department of Justice, the Office on Violence Against Women and the Office of Justice Programs work hand-in hand to ensure collaboration on domestic violence research, statistics, and grant-funded programs.
It is essential that we recognize the critical role that survivors of domestic violence play in the understanding and awareness of this crime. From survivors we have learned the importance of co-locating services for victims of domestic violence. As of October 1, 2006, eleven family justice centers have opened around the country as part of the President’s Family Justice Center Initiative. Since January, more than 12,000 victims have come through the doors of these centers and received help with filing protection orders, meeting with law enforcement, getting medical treatment, talking with a victim advocate, arranging for child care and supervised visitation, and more. The Family Justice Center concept is the physical embodiment of the coordinated community response at its best.
During this month, we would also like to pay tribute to the dedicated women and men who have chosen domestic violence as their life’s work. These individuals provide domestic violence victims with the hope that they need to move past the trauma and reclaim their lives. We are so very grateful for their efforts.
The Department of Justice is committed to ending domestic violence in this country. Too many families are suffering. Too many children are learning that violence is an acceptable way to deal with conflict. It is the responsibility of this Nation to consider every month Domestic Violence Awareness Month until the day that every man, woman, and child can live without fear in their homes, free from violence. Working together, that day will come.

Got Reading on Your Mind

Does God Still Love Me?
Ever wondered if God was listening? Do you feel like you are the only one questioning after being assaulted? Based on 10 years of healing and thousands upon thousands of emails and conversations with other survivors. Does God Still Love Me? dares to answer some of the hard questions asked by Survivors.

I Never Called It Rape: The Ms. Report on Recognizing, Fighting, and Surviving Date and Acquaintance Rape by Robin Warsaw

A survivor writes:
"I never had called it rape. This book helped me see what happened to me as a teen for what it really was. Tell everybody you know that this is an important book if you've ever wondered if it was rape or if it wasn't.".... Tina


The Hider's Story
by Jacqueline Gordon, 242 pages
Gayle writes: "Many thanks to Jacqueline for allowing us a preview copy of her book. This is a story of her recovery from years of sexual abuse at the hands of her father and how she found healing. Sometimes sad, sometimes frustrating, Jacqueline candidly looks at the beliefs of her family of origin and struggles against other's wishes for her to "forgive and forget" what happened. Along the way, she finds healing and urges us all to "choose the path of goodness" in our own lives. "



The Immaculate Perception: A Life's Journey... By Karon Aghotte-Rice

Gayle Writes:
"This is the novel I personally want to take with me if I ever get strangled on a deserted island. The book moves right along and will move you with it. You'll want to cry with the main character Sincerely Young. You'll want to laugh with her and enjoy life (and death) with her. It's not strictly a recovery book but it's excellent reading and handles women's issues well."


No Visible Scars by Alison Werth.For sample chapters click on her book title. It's a book of poetry every survivor should read. Solutions by Leslie Cameron Bandler A Survivor writes: "it is in part a transcript of how a rape victim was helped using mental coding technology. Interesting."


Time Line Therapy and the Basis of Personality by James and Woodsmall A Survivor Writes: "the part on timeline is directly beneficial to eliminating both the trauma of rape and how to easily eliminate the life limiting beliefs that are spawned in such a moment"


The Sexual Healing Journey by Wendy Maltz published by Harper Perennial (1991). A survivor writes: "It was a good first book for me because she lays out what sexual assault is, how it affects us and our partners, and she constantly gives encouragement and reminders that we are not to blame, that what we feel is ok."


The Wounded Heart:
Hope for Adult Victims of Childhood Sexual Abuse by Dan B. Allender A survivor writes: "This book was recommend to me by a teacher at school, who was date raped. It helped."... Cassie



After The Silence: Rape And My Journey Back by Nancy Venable Raine." This was recommended by a survivor who says " I am a rape survivor and I recommend anyone who has suffered this unspeakable act, you must read this book.".


Telling: A Memoir of Rape and Recovery by Patricia Francisco. A survivor writes: "It is published by HarperCollins, and has thus far received glowing reviews and notices. I think it may be helpful".


The Rape Poems by Frances Driscoll. "This is a book of poetry every survivor might be interested in. Sexual Violence by Linda A. Fairstein. A survivor writes: "It is a good book with a different viewpoint. It was written by the Director of the Sex Crimes Prosecution Unit in Manhattan. Written in language that anyone can understand it can really help you learn the inner workings of the legal system."


Taking Back My Life by Nancy Ziegenmeyer A survivor writes:"I am a survivor and reading this book ( it is a true story ) gave me much encouragement. I would recommend to any victim( or survivor)" It is an excellent book of courage and survival!"


Transforming a Rape Culture Edited by: Emilie Buchwald, Pamela Fletcher, Martha Roth. Gayle writes: "This is an excellent book for anyone who is trying to understand the cultural problems surrounding rape. No, it's not easy, light reading, but it's well worth the plunge. "


Trauma and Recovery by Judith Herman, M.D.
Gayle writes: "This is a book that no survivor should skip on reading. The information is very good, and helpful. Too bad there's not more books like this!! The print is a little small making the information hard to read sometimes but don't pass on it!"


Tell Someone



Visiting my Gyno the first time after my rape, was so hard. I was totally freaking out, but she was so good to me.

HPV is something we should all (raped or not) have ourselves checked for if involved in sexual activity. Finding and treating this can save you from potential cervical cancer.

Papillomaviruses are a diverse group of DNA-based viruses that infect the skin and mucous membranes of humans and a variety of animals. More than 100 different human papillomavirus (HPV) types have been characterized. Some HPV types cause benign skin warts, or papillomas, for which the virus family is named. HPVs associated with the development of such "common warts" are transmitted environmentally or by casual skin-to-skin contact. (Wikipedia)


I strongly urge all women to get tested for this. If raped, its even more important. Not only that, tell other women how important this is as well!

Rape Not Always Seen As a Problem

Rape, brutality ignored to aid Congo peace
By Jeff KoinangeCNN


BUKAVU, Democratic Republic of Congo (CNN) -- At a makeshift recreation center at a hospital here in eastern Congo, about 500 women surround one of their own, who's lying on the floor.
She clutches a cane as she struggles to get up. The women begin singing, slowly at first and then the song picks up momentum. Before long the young woman lifts herself, drops the cane and begins to walk around the room as if in a trance, singing and clapping. The other women clap along with her as the singing gets louder and louder.
The young woman's name is Tintsi and she's barely 20 years old. She arrived at the hospital three weeks ago on a stretcher carried by relatives who walked 100 miles to get here. Doctors weren't sure Tintsi would ever walk again.
Tintsi, like everyone else in this room, is a victim of the worst kind of sexual violation imaginable.
(Watch rape victims try to rebuild their lives -- 5:38)
"Some of them have knives and other sharp objects inserted in them after they've been raped, while others have pistols shoved into their vaginas and the triggers pulled back," said Dr. Denis Mukwege Mukengere, the lone physician at the hospital. "It's a kind of barbarity that only savages are capable of."
He added that "these perpetrators cannot be human beings."
The alleged perpetrators are men in uniform, part of the Congolese army. These troops are a compilation of various militia groups that had been fighting each other for years until a truce was reached two years ago.
A recent report by the United Nations found that Congo's own soldiers were responsible for the nearly seven dozen complaints of crimes and human rights violations over the past two months. Among the crimes committed were extrajudicial executions, disappearances, rapes and brutal beatings, according to the U.N. report.

'I wish they'd killed me'
Tintsi turns to the other victims standing near her and says in a soft, but defiant voice, "They can take away my womanhood, but they'll never be able to break my spirit."
Some women nod, others shake their heads. Some weep openly.
Also in the room is 28-year-old Henriette Nyota. Her spirit is all but broken. Three years ago, she said, she was gang raped as her husband and four children were forced to watch. The men in uniform then disemboweled her husband and continued raping her and her two oldest daughters, 10 and 8. The assault went on for three days.
"I wish they'd killed me right there with my husband," she said, "What use am I now? Why did those animals leave me to suffer like this?"
Nineteen-year-old Nzigire bears the result of repeated sexual violations -- her year-old daughter, Ester. The teenager acknowledges she often contemplates putting an end to what she calls a death sentence.
"I sometimes feel like killing myself and my daughter," she said. "I look at her and all I see is them. I look at myself and all I see is misery."

'Only revenge can make me forget'
Misery permeates this tiny hospital in this huge country the size of Western Europe. Last year there were more than 4,000 reported rape cases in this province alone, or about 12 a day, officials say.
And it's not just women who are being raped; so are some men with equally devastating consequences.
Fifteen-year-old Olivier was sitting down to dinner with his family when the front door of their house was smashed in. Olivier's father was the first to be killed followed by his mother, right in front of the children.
They then raped Olivier's three sisters, and when he tried to fight them they turned on him. One at a time, more than a dozen in all, he said.
"I will never forget what happened to me," he said. "How does one forget something like this? Only revenge can make me forget what happened to me."
Mukengere takes us from ward to ward, where the beds are filled with sexual abuse patients in various stages of recovery. Colostomy bags hang off their cots and bed pans are everywhere. Once in a while, you hear a woman scream in pain as she's raised by the team of tireless nurses to have something to eat or drink.
Mukengere, who attends to an average of 10 new cases a day, explains bed-by-bed the cruelty that has become the Congo.
"Helene, over there, is 19 years old. She first came here five years ago after having been raped," he said. "We treated her and discharged her, and off she went back to her home village. Five years later, she's back after being attacked and sexually violated over and over again. This is pure madness."
Equally troubling is that aid money designated for victims of sexual abuse here may run out at the end of June despite the relative success of this program, the only one of its kind in the region.
"It's so tragic that the world can afford to sit back and let these atrocities continue like this," said aid worker Marie Walterzon of the Swedish Pentecostal Mission. "Possibly because it involves poor, voiceless Africans," she said.
Sadly though, many of the people responsible for these rapes -- what is being described as the new weapon of war in a time of peace -- have yet to be arrested, tried or convicted. The peace process is too delicate at this stage, officials say.
The peace process is too delicate. And at this hospital in the eastern Congo, the rooms are too full.